Rosie’s biological mom is Xhosa and her dad was most probably Basotho but as in many cases the dad is often ‘not-known’. I’m Dutch and live in South Africa since 2003. I have South African permanent residency (which is needed if you would like to adopt locally). Rosie has a Dutch and South African passport. (yay!!)

So of course we often get the question, how do you deal with the cultural differences?

Rosie has been on 2 road trips to the Eastern Cape, has been to The Netherlands 4 times to visit grandparents and family. She’s been on safaris in Krugerpark, KwaZulu-Natal and has joined me on a business trip to Johannesburg for a week. She turns 3 in August 2015.

At school Rosie speaks English. I speak Dutch with her. The nanny/babysitter/housekeeper/Makhulu speaks Xhosa with her.
I made a very determined decision that I would like her to grow up as culturally diverse as possible. I would like her to feel at home in South Africa but also in The Netherlands, anywhere really to be honest. The world is our oyster, isn’t it?

In Cape Town we have many friends who have adopted, who are single or gay or happily married. I want her to see that there are different kinds of families of all kinds of colour and that all of them are GOOD people. I want her to grow up as a global citizen who cares about the world and the people in it no matter what colour they have.

Currently there’s a lot of debate in South Africa about racism. I know we will have to deal with it for the rest of our lives. However, I hope she will be confident in whatever she wants to learn and do in life and I hope to support her in her choices to the best of my abilities. I hope she will never feel limited in anything.


Ster Kinekor Entertainment release ‘Black or White’, the story of a grandfather (Kevin Costner) who is suddenly left to care for his orphaned granddaughter.
Conflict incurs when her paternal grandmother (Octavia Spencer) seeks custody of the child, The little girl is torn between two families, who love her deeply. With the best intentions at heart, both families fight for what they feel is right and are soon forced to confront their true feelings about race, forgiveness, and understanding. Anchored by an all-star cast and based on real events, the movie is a look at two seemingly different worlds, in which nothing is as simple as black or white.

The movie will be in cinemas in South Africa from the 10th of April.